Reclaiming Male Role Models

RMRM023 | Breaking Down Masculinity – Marriage, Intuition, and Hugging Your Father | Gregory Kellett

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GREGORY KELLETT is a leader in the field of human potential. His obsession for merging the worlds of neuroscience, community and optimal performance has led him to help individuals and organizations build resilience. He describes himself as a recovering neuroscientist, & prior to coaching, conducted research in brain responsiveness, stress & the nervous system for over 10 years at both SFSU and UCSF. He is known for his unique ability to translate scientific research into simple, practical tools for real world success and satisfaction.

Gregory lives with his extended family just north of San Francisco.

In this episode we talk about:

  • Letting go of the rational mind and trusting intuition.
  • Breaking down the paradigm of marriage.
  • Trusting women and the feminine – and how it’s made his life be better than he could have ever imagined.

Quotes from this episode:

I’m experimenting with really trusting women, and what I find it that it just keeps getting better than I could have ever have imagined.

It’s easy to believe what you see but it’s sometimes not as easy to see what you believe.

The universe is intelligent and benevolent and kind and incredibly responsive if we let it be. If we don’t believe it, if we don’t trust it, it won’t be.

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RMRM022 | Teaching Men to Grill Meat, Change Tires, and Tie Bowties | Kyle Ingham

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KYLE INGHAM is the founder and editor of The Distilled Man, a website that helps everyday guys become well-rounded gentlemen.

In this episode we talk about:

  • How Kyle’s interest in learning to grill better turned into full time business teaching man skills like making a martini, tying a bow tie, and grilling.
  • How Kyle actually creates and builds relationships by talking about taboo topics and pushing peoples’ comfort zones.
  • How learning new skills (such as mixing a martini!) can increase a man’s confidence.

Quotes from this episode:

I have a few role models that are comedians. Not because they’re funny, but because of their honesty.

My father, he had high expectations of me being good at sports and I wasn’t that good at sports…

I’ve always found that I’m way more happy when I have a sense of purpose. I’m the kind of person who needs to embody what I’m doing.

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RMRM 021 | Leaving the Jehovah’s Witness Church to Create a Fully Authentic Life | David Hrostoski

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Shortly after the death of his mother and fully exiting the religious cult he was born into, DAVID HROSTOSKI began his journey into deep personal introspection and entrepreneurship.

After two cross-country road trips with his brother—one to spread his mothers ashes in 40 locations and document the journey, and the other to volunteer in 35+ cities over a 94 day span—he was inspired to spend the next three years as a coach, tackling various problems with his clients from around the world.

Then, after a monumental spiritual opening, he decided to take the skills he learned during his time as a coach into consulting for purpose-centered businesses to amplify his global impact.

He now works behind the scenes of some of the world’s best coaches, helping to strategize and implement systems for sustainable growth.

In this episode we talk about:

  • David’s double life as a member of the Jehovah’s Witness church – and his journey in leaving to create the life he knew he was meant to live.
  • What it looks like to intentionally create a community family that gets and supports you for who you truly are.
  • How to live a fully authentic life.

Quotes from this episode:

I was living a double life. I would have sex with my girlfriend and then I would go home to the Jehovah’s Witness.

At our core we don’t want to do harm to other people

RMRM020 | How to Be an Extraordinary Parent Who Raises Extraordinary Children | Gregg DeMammos

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GREGG DEMAMMOS is a very happy husband and father of two great boys. In 2006 Gregg left a successful career in the music industry managing artists to become a life coach. Ten years later he has coached hundreds of people to transform their lives and relationships, have more business success, and create new, empowering relationship to themselves. Today Gregg is more of who he always wanted to be than he ever has been.

From the moment he lost his father at age 9 Gregg became committed to helping his mom get through things as best he could. In his business he now concentrates on coaching women leaders who are ready to bring their dreams back into focus and become who they have always wanted to be – A niche that has been a lifetime in the making.

In this episode we talk about:

  • How Gregg respects his childrens’ temper tantrums and anger, and transforms them into life lessons and deep love.
  • Gregg’s journey of learning to use his emotions in ways that worked FOR him.
  • How, despite growing up with no father as a role model during some of the most formative years of his life, Gregg later chose to be an extraordinary father who raised extraordinary children.

Quotes from this episode:

My 9 year old son is incredibly wise. The things he gives me for my business and for myself are unparalleled.

Your emotions are your reality until you understand that they’re an emotional reality and that you exist underneath them.

Regardless of how righteous your mission is, of how great the possibility you’re holding is, when you’re injecting your own outrage [into a situation] you’re going to create more separation.

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RMRM 019 | How to Open Your Partner up to Love in Every Moment | Christopher Sunyata

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CHRISTOPHER SUNYATA Sexual energy is the source of all life in this world. Vast physical pleasure, deep love, and even union with divine source can be experienced through sex. Christopher Sunyata teaches people how to embrace their sexual power and artfully conduct it through their body and intimate relationships, integrating this power into their whole life. Drawing upon decades of practice and study under masters of sexual yoga, Taoist exercises, and Buddhist meditation, he teaches ancient body-centered practices without dogma or esoteric language, leading others to discover the secret wisdom already present within their own body. By learning to trust this wisdom within their body, people can reclaim passion and life energy that is their birthright, and create intimate relationships that deepen in love and chemistry over the years.

Prior to teaching he was a successful international project manager responsible for over a billion dollars in revenue, a medical device engineer with seven patents, and a ceramic artist.  He has raised four children, two of his own, including one who has significant disabilities. He lives in Molokai, Hawaii and Boulder, Colorado with his beloved wife Karlene.

In this episode we talk about:

  • What it’s like to be in his 50s and be having the best sex AND the most intimacy he’s ever had with his partner – and getting better every day.
  • Chris’ touching story of how his grandfather taught him to truly love women.
  • How awareness of our breath is the foundation of intimacy – and how to begin cultivating that awareness.

Quotes from this episode:

It was the first time I’d seen a married couple where they were flirting all the time. It shocked me how much joy they had in their relationship.

Foreplay is happening 24/7 if you’re in a relationship.

The man with the fullest breath in a room holds a gravitas and presence that other men feel and will respect and defer to that person.

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