Reclaiming Male Role Models

RMRM 016 | Father Therapist & Son Sexual Healer | Freddy Jr. and Freddy Sr.

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FREDDY ZENTAL WEAVER co-lead creative self-discovery seminars at the Institute for Creative Living in Los Angeles, San Diego, San Francisco and Hawaii. He employs the approach of “Creative Self-Discovery” as developed by psychiatrist and author, Fred Weaver, III, M.D. During his tenure in software sales with companies including Eality, Ceridian Employer Services, Paychex and WebPerfect Solutions, Inc. he consistently achieved outstanding sales and income objectives.

Freddy Zental’s career spans from serving as a teacher and district wide human relationship counselor in the Los Angeles Unified School District in his early career to being a performing artist with a one-man show called “Sexual Enlightenment” currently touring the United States. He is an accomplished performing artist, percussionist, stand-up comedian and story teller using humor, music and movement in his presentations and trainings. He holds a Bachelor’s Degree in political science and is a certified Thai Body Worker.

FRED WEAVER III, M.D. earned his bachelors degree from North Carolina Central University, obtain his medical degree from Meharry medical college and completed a psychiatric residency at UCLA with a vast background of teaching consulting in private practice experience. His special interests include writing poetry, painting, creating multimedia collages, and writing about the creative process. Has been retired for the last 20 years. A native of Gainesville Florida Dr. Weaver currently lives in Marina Delray California. He is the father of four children Wanda, Freddy, Woody, and Milton. Dr. Weaver has published many poems and books.

In this episode we talk about:

  • How to raise your child to grow into the genius that they truly are
  • What it was like for Freddy Jr. to grow up immersed in his father’s phsychiatric work (including sitting in on 24 hour nude group therapy sessions!)
  • The special connection between a father and son who have BOTH committed their lives to personal growth

Quotes from this episode:

“[My father] has always been committed to allowing me to be, uncover, and discover“

“I think there should be a program in school for children to learn how to consciously self love.”

“As your father I‘m going to attempt to be the best father I can be, make you the best person you can be, but a lot of times I’ll be wrong. A lot of times another person will be able to meet some of your needs that I can’t meet. And I hope that I can guide you in such a way that you can know who they are.”

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RMRM 015 | Mark Groves | How to Have an Epic Relationship by Connecting with Your Truth

RMRM015 Mark Groves

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MARK GROVES has a specialized interest in the area of Human Connection. He’s an author, speaker and sales consultant. He’s in love with science, psychology, and uncovering the mysteries of what makes great relationships work. Speaking of that, he’s certain there are no “secrets” when it comes to great relationships. Rather, he believes that all relationships are by design and we are all the architects of what we want.

Mark has a Certificate in Applied Positive Psychology and has written for The Purple Fig, Plenty of Fish, Goodmen Project and Trifecta Magazine. When he’s not working with clients you’ll find him traveling the globe, playing in the mountains and ocean, or pretty much anything that gets his heart beating in the paradise that is Vancouver, BC.

In this episode we talk about:

  • How the 6 figure job and picture perfect engagement actually kept him AND his fiancee from true happiness.
  • What makes some relationships last? And what makes others not?
  • How to be a man who shows up 100% and is fully present.

Quotes from this episode:

“In relationships there’s so much freedom in just being real with each other.”

“When you connect with who you are and what your truth is you’re better able to connect with others – because you’re not spending your time wearing a mask.”

“We ALL have a responsibility to be role models for each other. “

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RMRM 014 | Robert Smyth | Poetry, Mythology, and Men’s Work

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ROBERT B. SMYTH believes that stories are what make life, the world, and ourselves unfold. For 25+ years, he ran Yellow Moon Press, an independent publishing company, whose focus was the oral tradition as it relates to storytelling, poetry and music. His love of story drew him to the mythopoetic men’s work of Robert Bly, Michael Meade, James Hillman, John Stokes, and others as an organizer of numerous events where men explored and nurtured themselves with folktales, poems, and personal reflection. In his interview, he shares stories and poems that have revealed the world to him.

In this episode we talk about:

  • Robert’s journey into the mytho-poetic men’s work world of the 70’s and 80’s.
  • The power of poetry to transform our relationships – to ourselves AND to others.
  • What it means to be a man in the world without being that stereotypical dominant male.
  • The importance of family lineage, and finding the grave of his great, great, great grandfather.

Quotes from this episode:

  • “The demons don’t go away, but you learn what they are, what they’re about, and how to talk to them… because they’re there because they’ve been ignored, and they need to be talked to just like you talk to a good friend if they’re having trouble to understand what’s going on.”
  • “I was in boarding school and I had a couple of teacher that started to teach poetry, and it started to help me explain and understand and explore my feelings, my approach, my interaction with the world and with others.”

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RMRM 013 | Max Nachamkin | Learning to Love Our Fathers and Having Joyful Relationships

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MAX NACHAMKIN is a relationship coach for entrepreneurs, where he merges spiritual and practical real-world techniques to help business owners get out of tricky relationship situations and increase the amount of love, connection, and service they have in the world.

In this episode we talk about:

  • Max’s journey of learning to love his parents and accepting that they did the very best they could while raising him.
  • How joy and play can help us get more of the connection, intimacy, and sex that we really want in our relationships.
  • The secret to being really great with women: Crying.

Quotes from this episode:

  • “There are no experts, only people who’ve been winging it longer than you have” 
  • “When we let go of these emotions they can’t control us anymore.”
  • “When we’re light and we’re fun and we’re playful people are really attracted to that. Crying is a huge piece of that. For the guy who feels like his relationships suck, that would be a bigger game changer than any tactic or technique.”

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RMRM 012 | Eva Clay | How to Deepen Connection to Your Masculine Core

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EVA CLAY, LCSW is a true wild woman. An acclaimed psychotherapist, tantrika, sex geek, and muse, her mission is to illuminate the ménage-a-trois of body, mind, and spirit in all our relating. She has helped thousands of people to achieve hot, healthy, holistic love.

As a professor of neuroscience, Eva bodaciously reminds us that the brain is our biggest sex organ, and with great elegance she marries the profound with the playful.  Always called to uplift sexual wellness, she’s worked for 20-years a sex educator and healer.

She offers self-love and erotic intelligence programs for both women and men.  On her off time you might find her crashing open mic events in Venice Beach.

In this episode we talk about:
  • How to know if you’re in your body (or if you’re not!).
  • How our breath is the GPS of our life, and why it’s so important to be in touch with it.
  • How to get more embodied using breath, and why it’s essential to creating intimacy in relationships.
Quotes from this episode:

“Love Warriors. The masculine is one who protects, one who provides and does so out of love. Does so out of devotion. Devotion to his tribe, to his woman, to his family.”

“I don’t think it’s requisite to hate men if you’ve been violated by one.”

“Emotional awareness is an absolute necessity to enter a state of empathy. If you’re not emotionally aware then it’s going to be hard for you to develop a deep intimacy with another human being.”

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